Uncommon Denominator

Funny thing about being in a wedding. It makes you look at past relationships and current involvement. Was a past lover the one? Is a current fling, destined to be long term. I’ve been involved with some great women. Some had wifeable qualities,some just shared similar interest. Do I feel like I let one slip? Only one could be labeled as the one that got away.  I wasn’t ready,still need to grow and mature. She walked away, I let her. Definitely deserves a spot on a list of top 10  dumbest things I’ve done.  she believes shes better off and she might very well be.  I fell ill find my way(sooner rather than later, hopefully). They say you get a feeling, u just know when you come across your mate. No doubts . This person is not perfect by dictionary meaning, but for a mate, spouse, this person will be perfect in every way imaginable  and still beyond my wildest dreams

When I do come across that woman who will receive my last name, that’s it. Im not doing any do overs. I will be witnessing my father get married. For the 2nd time. My mother and father married, and 20 something years later, divorced. We live in  a society where the divorce rate is staggering.people get married for a mirriad of reasons. Love, pressure, convenience, who knows. People divorce often because they werent ready, its convenient to move on , or give reasons like “i didnt really know them”{sidenote, how do you expect to fully know someone in less than 5 years? ive hear stories of couples together for decades and still find out new things about each other .. but i digress}I don’t plan on wedding and divorcing. When I find her, she’s gonna be the one.  Not the first one… She’ll be it, the only one . She will put up with me, bare my children, be provided for, be my equal. 
Im happy that my father is able to find happiness(again). Nothing is perfect but I just  don’t plan on going thru it. Now a days we are astonished to find married couples past 10,20,30 + years. We ask what’s the secret. I plan to be part of a couple that will be able to share the secret to long term marriage. 
Once I say I do, give her this ring, I don’t plan on saying I don’t and taking anything back. and because of that, im in no hurry. i wont be rushing into anything. when its time, it will be time, but no one or no thing will force me into a relationship that isnt right for me. There is this lost sanctity of marriage. That ring , truly will represent a bond that will not end. Til death do us part…